Everyone loves compliments until they don’t. If I dress up for an occasion, it’s wonderful to hear someone tell me that I look nice. If I’ve worked hard on something, being told that I’ve done a good job is a nice reinforcement. But what happens if somebody says something negative about me? What if it’s someone who matters to me that says it? That can easily ruin my day, or at least it used to. It turns out that outside negativity only has weight when we let our source of positivity be affirmation from others.